Damn that hurts!

30 11 2008

It really hurts when someone accurately describes exactly why things are so bad where you work.

The blog Management Issues clearly and effectively describes 25 actions that will cause the flourishing of mistrust and disharmony within a group.

Unfortunately I think we manage these 22.

  1. You serve your self first and others only when it is convenient.
  2. You micromanage and resist delegating.
  3. You demonstrate an inconsistency between what you say and how you behave.
  4. You fail to share critical information with your colleagues.
  5. You choose to not tell the truth.
  6. You resort to blaming and scapegoating others rather than own your mistakes.
  7. You judge, and criticize rather than offer constructive feedback.
  8. You betray confidences, gossip and talk about others behind their backs.
  9. You choose to not allow others to contribute or make decisions.
  10. You downplay others’ talents, knowledge and skills.
  11. You refuse to support others with their professional development.
  12. You resist creating shared values, expectations and intentions in favor of your own agenda; you refuse to compromise and foster win-lose arguments.
  13. You refuse to be held accountable by your colleagues.
  14. You resist discussing your personal life, allowing your vulnerability, disclosing your weaknesses and admitting your relationship challenges.
  15. You fail to admit you need support and don’t ask colleagues for help.
  16. You take others’ suggestions and critiques as personal attacks.
  17. You fail to speak up in team meetings and avoid contributing constructively.
  18. You refuse to consider the idea of constructive conflict and avoid conflict at all costs.
  19. You refuse to follow through on decisions agreed upon at team meetings.
  20. You secretly engage in back-door negotiations with other team members to create your own alliances.
  21. You refuse to give others the benefit of the doubt and prefer to judge them without asking them to explain their position or actions.
  22. You refuse to apologize for mistakes, misunderstandings and inappropriate behaviour and dig your heels in to defend yourself and protect your reputation.

I feel disloyal blogging this but ultimately most people involved and interacting with us know all these facts. Perhaps my blogging the problem should be No.23?

I can’t change others’ behaviour but I can my own.I’d be grateful for insight and advice as to how to how others feel they might turn this terrible situation around.

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